Many women claim that the best thing about being a lesbian is oral sex. They say that, apparently, no one can go down on a woman like another woman. This could be true. After all, as with any other type of lesbian sex, a woman is likely to know how to pleasure a woman more than a man.

However, it wouldn’t hurt to have a few pointers. If it’s your first time performing cunnilingus on a woman it can be so daunting. And even if you have done it before, the first time on a new partner can be just like the first time all over again.

The main point to remember is that you are both there to enjoy it. Many women can get incredibly aroused by performing oral sex on their girlfriends. Just the thought of getting someone so wet and turned on can be enough to make some women come. In fact, it is easy to come yourself while performing without even being touched.

Some people view it as foreplay when in actual fact it can be a very satisfying sex act in its own right. It has everything that you could possibly want from a position and can produce amazing results if done correctly. In fact, just by talking to each other and saying what you enjoy, you can get some amazing results that will bring you closer together.

It is a truly intimate and erotic experience which shouldn’t be taken for granted and can certainly bring you closer together. It involves a great deal of trust and can often be more intimate than full penetrative sex.

Therefore, you should take your time. You may be set on the end result, but like most journeys, the traveling can be just as good as getting to your destination. Take time to find out what your girlfriend wants and listen to the way she reacts, take the initiative to try different methods until you find out what really gets her going, rather than just sticking with the tried and tested.

It’s important to remember that there isn’t just one part of the vagina. The whole area in or around the female genitalia is a big G-spot that reacts in different ways depending upon what you do with it. It’s probably a good idea not just to dive straight in there. You really want to build up to it and make her desperate for you.

Start by licking her inner thighs, gently pushing her legs open, and slowly move towards the vagina. Start from just below the entrance and lick slowly right up to the clitoral hood. Doing this a few times will give you an indication of her most sensitive areas. Once you have established this, you can start to focus in on different parts. Try licking around the labia, avoiding the clit. That way you’ll begin to feel her swelling and you will know when she is ready for your tongue.

Once you feel she is ready, you can slowly push her legs back as far as they will go and push your tongue deep into her vagina. This way you can reach her g-spot, which is just on the inside, and your chin and the rest of your mouth will be stimulating her generally.

After a while, you will feel her begin to contract, so come out of her vagina and move up to her clit. If you firm up your tongue you can get just the right amount of pressure and work in circular motions on her clit. This is the most sensitive part of her, and after having your tongue inside her, you will notice that her clit has got harder. She should also now be wetter and more ‘full’.

You may feel like you are down there for a long time, but in actual fact you probably aren’t – and you should really be enjoying the time you are spending getting her aroused. You will start to feel her get even fuller and wetter and this is when you know that she is about to come.

Don’t be shocked if you feel her ejaculate over your face. It won’t be too much, and you should feel honoured that you have managed to achieve this for her, as it doesn’t happen easily or often, but with the right technique can be amazing. You start to feel her shuddering

There is the standard position with her lying on her back and you lying in front of her, but you might find that her sitting over your face is a real turn on – she can control what she wants to do and you can feel as if you are totally enveloped by her, which is very sexy.

You can also try doing it from behind, with her on all fours – again a very different and sexy position that enables you to try anal sex or using a toy at the same time. You also have a great angle for accessing her breasts as you lick her.

Another variation is that once you have gone down on her for a while, you can also introduce fingers and toys. Being penetrated and sucked can be quite an overwhelming experience for some women, so once you feel she is about to come, push a couple of fingers inside her vagina to feel it contracting as she does come. It will heighten the sensation for both of you. You could always try using a toy or a strap on too without her knowing for that added extra surprise.

The main benefit of going down on someone is that you get to know so much about what they enjoy sexually, and if you can get this one right, pretty much everything else will follow. Allow time, patience and understanding and you’re sure to get many gold stars from your girlfriend for the effort you put in!